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Romance & Menage

Last week I talked about erotic romance, a subgenre I’m becoming more familiar with. A typical erotic romance has explicit language and frequent sex scenes between a loving, monogamous couple. Multiple partners and same-sex pairings are also common, however.

Although m/m/f (two men + female) isn’t my “thing,” I decided to try Lauren Dane’s Laid Bare. Dane is a favorite among romance bloggers for good reason. She’s an excellent writer. The sex scenes in this book are sizzling, the characters are great, and the emotional quotient is very high. I really enjoyed the relationship between Erin and Todd. These reunited lovers definitely work out their kinks!

My problems were as follows:

Erin’s back story was too painful for me to read. I can’t say it wasn’t handled well, just that I felt so uncomfortable I had to skip over it.

Ben didn’t add much to the relationship. Todd and Erin are great together, and just learning to please each other. While I enjoyed the voyeurism, I wasn’t on board when Ben joined in. Todd and Ben also share a few intimacies, not my fantasy.

Erin says the two men look “pretty together” or something like that. When the three of them negotiate the sexual relationship, Erin warns (twice, I think) that the men can have her, and each other, but no other women. These details bothered me in a small, unexplainable way.

If you’re okay with m/m/f, I think you’ll like this book. My nitpicks are mostly due to my disinterest in this type of ménage.

Moving on to a ménage that worked a little better for me: Kirsten Saell’s Bound by Steel. I’m much more into f/f/m. I’ve posted a few guest reviews on LVLM, a site dedicated to girl-on-girl romance and erotica. Saell is a frequent visitor there.

When I bought this ebook, I didn’t realize it wasn’t the first in the series. I wish I’d started with Crossing Swords, because I felt like I missed out on the introduction to these characters. In Bound by Steel, the heroine and hero are already together, living on a rural farm with a scarred female servant. Kaela is recovering from a brutal attack several months prior. She hears the couple in bed one night and peeks in, wondering how any woman could enjoy intercourse.

The hero is a former assassin and his wife, Lianon, is some kind of ex-warrior. These two hooked up in Crossing Swords, after Lianon’s female lover was murdered. Lianon is attracted to men and women equally. In Bound by Steel, she wants to give Kaela some sexual healing.

Confused? I hope not, because it’s all pretty clear, despite my not having read the previous book. It’s interesting to note that Gil, the hero, is reluctant to bring Kaela into their bed. He’s madly in love with Lianon and doesn’t want to lose her. After assuring Gil she could never love him less, Lianon begins a gentle seduction of Kaela.

The scenes between Kaela and Lianon are hot. Gil doesn’t join in right away, but when he does, OMG. This is very steamy stuff, and Saell handles the emotional connections with skill. A later encounter between Gil and Kaela—without Lianon—is incredibly tender. I felt totally invested in the threesome relationship, even when only two of the three were together.

In Laid Bare, I wasn’t sure what Ben added to the relationship. The triad in Bound by Steel was more convincing for me. Kaela warms to a woman’s touch because she’s been harmed by men. Lianon is happy with Gil, but she needs Kaela also. And Gil, who hesitates at first, relishes his new role as their lover, and steps up to the plate in every way. If you think you might like f/f/m, I highly recommend this author.

Have you ever read a ménage romance? Did you like it? Why or why not?

10 Responses to “Romance & Menage”

    I’ve read Laid Bare and while I loved Ms. Dane’s writing, I had the same reactions you did to the book and similiar reactions to another book of her’s I read that was a menage. The sequel to Laid Bare, Coming Undone was great though. It’s not a menage though. If you want to try an erotic romance that’s not a menage, read that one. It’s awesome.

    by Lynette on March 8th, 2010 at 4:58 pm

    I’m not too fond of menage in general. I wonder why authors do it if they’re not going to have all three really be committed to each other.

    Most menages I read it seems that the menage is kind of thrown in there. I don’t mind that if I’m reading erotica and it’s like a one time experiment or something like that, but very few authors can make me believe that three people will be really committed to each other and that it’s relatively fair and balanced.

    Like you, I’m more fond of f/f/m menage. Kirsten Saell is one of the few authors who really manages the emotional connection in threesomes. Although, in her m/m/f book, I didn’t feel the female character as connected to the men and the men were to each other. But in Bound By Steel, the connection between all three was very deep.

    I think a lot depends on why the author is writing the menage. Is she doing it just to add to the erotic factor and to make the story more of a fantasy? Or is the author really trying to convey a loving threesome who are realistically trying to work it out because they all really love each other?

    I think many authors aren’t really clear about that and that’s why the reader doesn’t really believe that all three are equally invested.

    by Leah on March 8th, 2010 at 6:40 pm

    Hi Lynette,

    I will definitely try more from this author. Coming Undone looks good!

    Leah, I agree that Saell did a great job here. Thanks for your comment.

    by Jill Sorenson on March 9th, 2010 at 4:04 pm

    I don’t share.

    by Ann Bruce on March 9th, 2010 at 4:43 pm

    Hi Ann! Long time no see. I miss your blog.

    by Jill Sorenson on March 9th, 2010 at 6:22 pm

    Aw…thanks, Jill. However, I’m much happier without the blog. Now I actually write instead of write about writing or not writing or writing crap that should never see the light of day.

    by Ann Bruce on March 10th, 2010 at 6:51 pm

    I’ve not really read much menage. It doesn’t hugely appeal to me though I can see it opens up the author’s palette considerably in an erotic romance. As a romantic concept, it doesn’t do anything for me.

    by Tumperkin on March 11th, 2010 at 3:14 pm

    Tumperkin,

    Right! It’s a sexy concept, but not a romantic one. For me, love is about a connection between two people. It’s special, not for sharing, as Ann B. said above. I think that’s why it’s so difficult to pull off an HEA for all three.

    by Jill Sorenson on March 11th, 2010 at 4:33 pm

    Awww, thanks for the kind words, Jill! I’m really pleased the story worked for you, though yeah, you’d probably have enjoyed it more had you read Crossing Swords first.

    I have to say, I’m rather the opposite of Ann Bruce and Tumperkin. I have no jealousy/possessiveness issues either in fiction or in real life. Half my enjoyment of any encounter involving three people–in whatever ratio–is that all parties are sharing something special together with no one left out in the cold.

    I’ve had acquaintances tell me they’d be interested in a threesome, but only if it was a one-time, casual thing with no chance of emotional connection between their partner and the other person. Casual swinging and one-off threesomes–in books or IRL–just do not do it for me. I wouldn’t want to explore something like that *unless* there was a deep emotional connection between all three people.

    I’m aware of how…unusual an attitude this is, heh.

    I’m just glad there’s enough people out there who enjoy reading that kind of thing–even if they wouldn’t want to live that way–to keep me in pin money, lol.

    by kirsten saell on March 13th, 2010 at 5:24 pm

    You’re very welcome, Kirsten! It was my pleasure.

    by Jill Sorenson on March 14th, 2010 at 9:20 am